I’ve studied over 200 kids. The 5 signs you’ve raised a ‘highly spoiled’ one—and how parents can undo it

When children seek constant attention, it often indicates emotional separation or uncertainty about their place in the family. A child who does not feel safe in their bond may ask for more: more time, more validation, and more reassurance.

For example, a child who always interrupts or connects a parent in social environments is not necessarily in need, but he is somewhat sure of its importance when the focus is not on them.

Advice for parents: Set from 10 to 20 minutes of uninterrupted connection every day. The more time, the better. Play, speak, or be present with your child. Use these moments, tell them, “You are enough.”

When children feel safely, their need for constant verification fades.

Anger attacks are not tampering – it’s a cry for help. Children in the breakdown mode are usually immersed and lack the skills needed to address great feelings.

Often, this happens because the child feels unknown when his emotions are rejected, or helpless when they have no opinion, or are stimulated due to a lot of noise, activity or change.

Advice for parents: Keep calm, check their feelings (“I see you really frustrated”) and rests (“I am here with you until you feel better”). Children learn emotional organization through communication, not control.

A child who refuses to clean, avoid homework, or surrender easily is not difficult or lazy. Instead, it may have been protected from challenges often or, on the other hand, pushed independence before they feel prepared.

Advice for parents: Providing appropriate cooperative responsibilities for age. Cook together or solve small problems as one team. The celebration remembers their efforts, not just the results. When children feel the ability and support, responsibility comes normally.

When the child behaves not to be frustrated for not getting what they want, he often does not have a merit. It may mean that they feel that they are not teachers, separate or helpless.

And when children receive continuous games, treat or rewards instead of emotional communication, they fill their ability to estimate what really matters.

Advice for parents: Glory grows from communication. Increase your child in meaningful moments, such as helping to cook a meal, make a card or share small joys as a family. When children feel that they belong, contribute and appreciate, it is appreciated.

I always remember parents by avoiding excessive renewal of their children. For example, if they help clean the house, instead of giving them money or sweet treatment, you can say: “Thank you for help. This means a lot for me, and I enjoyed it together.”

The goal is to make these moments meaningful, rather than something they do for a prize.